The 30 Second Whinge

Written by Noeleen Shaw


My husband and I live a very focused and well-balanced life together in our little country town.   It’s quiet and very conducive to the meditative lifestyle, except for Sundays.

On Sunday there is a market and, if the weather is fine, people travel from the nearby city to our town for a coffee, to sit in the sun, visit the art gallery, or wander the area – the market or shops, the playgrounds and park.   It’s a lovely place to live.

We enjoy our life living the Synchronicity paradigm and it is rare for us to get out of balance and yet, on very rare occasions, we do.

The day can feel jagged and raw.   Jobs are hard work and the voice in my head goes “she should”, “he should”, “if only”, nah, nah, nah.  It’s most uncomfortable.

So, one of our favourite rebalancing tools is “THE 30 SECOND WHINGE.”  It works like this.

A claim has to be made with a very clear statement.   “I want to have a 30 second whinge.”    If it is agreed, then the whinger gets 30 seconds (completely uninterrupted) to bleat and whine, complain and shout about anything they want to.   Sometimes it can get very, very loud.  

It’s really weird because each time I have done this I have never managed the full 30 seconds!!  I just run out of steam and the session usually ends up with lots of laughter and the most blissful return to balance.

About the Author

Noeleen Shaw

Noeleen Shaw

Noeleen Shaw lives in rural New Zealand.  She is a 71 year old wife, mother, grandmother, and great-grandmother. A meditator for many years, seventeen years ago she discovered and started using the Synchronicity High-Tech Meditation system. Since 2000 she has had the good fortune to participate in personal mentoring with Master Charles Cannon.