According to Carin Rockind, in her blog article Women Should “Lean In’ to Happiness Instead, “While common Western wisdom believes that success leads to happiness, hundreds of research studies show that the opposite is true. Happy people are more successful in every possible measure. Happy people are physically healthier, have better relationships and are more productive at work. Customers like working with happy staff; employees prefer a happy boss. You get the idea.”
Do we really get the idea?
It’s easy to get an idea in our heads, to think we understand it, yet not fully “get it” in a way that leads to a changed experience. There are a million examples. For instance, getting the idea that eating sugar is unhealthy, knowing we should exercise more, realizing we could forgive someone if we wanted to, etc. Where’s the change? What turns getting an idea into a changed behavior?
If you could bottle that you’d be fabulously wealthy! And, of course, you can’t. No one will ever find a product, some sort of magic bullet that can transform us in that way. Our best attempt is drugs! Unfortunately, drugs are addictive, have side effects, and render us ultimately powerless.
Instead of trying to get happiness, even leaning into it, how about letting go to happiness? This assumes that happiness is already present, that it doesn’t need to be found or achieved. This is true. Each of us is inherently happy; it’s an aspect of our essence, our design, our nature. But a lifetime of pursuing happiness outside of ourselves has turned the obvious into a mystery.
Let go to happiness. Embrace who you are. Feel that fulfillment now, right now as you read, without changing a thing “out there” in your life, or “in here” where you think and scheme. Just let go. And discover – wonder of wonders – that happiness is ready to open like a blossom in sudden sunlight.
Be the light, open your blossom of happiness!