You may have heard about the woman in Oklahoma who was robbed in a grocery store, confronted the thief, and convinced him to give her wallet back… then bought his groceries.
He was thoroughly embarrassed and confessed that he was just trying to feed his own kids, that he was dead broke, and he apologized. Then he cried as she paid $27 for his groceries.
What a remarkable example of compassion and understanding. So often snap judgments create “others” who we give impersonal names like thief, murderer, etc. These are people. They have a story. And there are always very human reasons for what they do, like this man trying to feed his children. There are wounds motivating their behavior.
We can judge their methods or we can be a healer. What’s fair? What’s right? What would make a difference? This woman showed us what’s possible when we come from our hearts, not our heads, and choose to provide an answer, not revenge or punishment.