Master Charles Cannon
Much of what we say to others is strongly influenced by our desire either to appear magnanimous or to maintain the status quo in a relationship. It is not often that we actually speak the truth about what we are experiencing in the moment.
At least once each day, make it a practice to speak the literal truth to another person. Report on an event, situation, or experience as if you were a journalist on assignment. This includes a conscious focus on non-interpretation—which means simply speaking about your current experience without embellishment or attempting to draw conclusions. This could take the form of an encounter you have with another person, or an experience you have on your own that you wish to share with someone else.
For example, if someone says something to you that you find insulting, rather than reacting with a counter-insult or attempting to defend yourself by saying something such as, “There you go again, being obnoxious”, simply express what you are feeling in the moment. Say something like “I am experiencing some agitation after hearing you say that” The other person is, of course, free to answer or not, but at least you have expressed yourself truthfully.
The same principle also applies to a positive interaction. If you feel loving or uplifted in relation to someone else, make a point of saying so.
This exercise is about truthful self-expression as a means of communicating with another. Regular practice can both simplify and bring greater depth to all our relationships.